Sex Addiction

An indication of a Sex Addiction might be when you realise that a particular sexual behaviour that makes you feel bad or that could have negative consequences on your life is something you cannot manage or stop. If a particular behaviour makes us feel bad, or we feel bad when we have sex with our partner or are around our partner as a result, that could be a signal that the sexual behaviour is unhelpful. If you find that you are thinking constantly, or obsessively about doing a particular behaviour that will make you feel bad, or have negative consequences on your life or relationship, then you might consider it to be a Sex Addiction or Compulsion.

The most common Sex Addiction is masturbating to porn. While using pornography to masturbate to is not automatically an addiction, it could become a problem when it is making us feel bad in some way. It could also become bad if it leads to accessing illegal material. In addition, excessive pornography use can lead to Pornography Induced Erectile Dysfunction. This is because the person has forgotten how to think and feel sexual without pornograpahy in order to get a erection during intimacy or when alone.

Another very common Sex Addiction that I help people with is sexual massages. Again, this is something that can make people feel good in one way, but if you find it also makes you feel bad in another way, then you might consider it something to be unhealthy for you. Often, once men  begin to think about getting the massage, they find they eventually do. They become fixated on the idea, and find it difficult not to look for a venue where they can get relief.

There are other types of sex addictions that involve the integration of addictive substances, like cocaine. Jeremy Barbouttis has much experience in helping people with all kinds of addictive combinations, particularly alcohol, gambling, cocaine, ice, and other drugs, and sex workers. If there is something you do that troubles you, then you might like to call Jeremy for an appointment to discuss assessment and treatment options.

For further information, or to make an appointment, you can call (02) 9518 9912, or fill in the contact form in the sidebar.

Fetishes

Fetish is the term used to refer to an activity, object or even roleplay that is needed in order to achieve orgasm. The potential for something to become a fetish is endless and may have formed because of early experiences in life. While therapy may be used to let go or release the power of a fetish, there is no requirement to engage in therapy simply because you have a fetish. Tickling, sneezing, cross-dressing, spanking, feet, latex, voyerism, exhibitionism,  group sex, being dominant or submissive, and so on, are examples of fetishes that in some cases are relatively common. As long as the activity causes no harm to others, and doesn’t make the person engaged in it feel bad, then it is generally regarded as harmless. However, if it does cause problems, or makes yourself  feel bad in some way, then you might consider makeing an appointment with a Sex Therapist. Jeremy has assisted many couples where fetishes have caused difficulties, including conflict and negative feelings about onself/their partner.

If you are an individual or couple needing help with fetishes, then you might make an apointment with Jeremy by call (02) 9518 9912, or click on the tab on the bottom right of the screen to make an appointment online right now.